Italian Life

Expat Secrets, Why Barbora Thinks We Should Start Talking

Mental Health & Expat Life, why it's not all La Dolce Vita in Italy. Stories of Moving to Italy is an interview series about the Pros & Cons of moving to Italy.

Welcome to the fifth edition of Stories of Moving to Italy. This week’s interview is with Barbora from Turn Italian. Originally from Slovakia, Barbora left home at the age of 19 with one suitcase. Since then she’s lived in Switzerland, the UK, and Italy. As a polyglot in Milan, Barbora is on a mission to “help expats navigate the ex-pat’s sea.” Barbora encourages expats to speak out about the impact our hidden struggles have on our mental health. Here are the highlights from my chat with Barbora!

Stories of Moving to Italy Barbora Pros and Cons
Barbora from Turn Italian on the Pros and Cons of Living in Italy

Stories of Moving to Italy | Barbora on Mental Health Struggles for Expats

Brandy: You’ve had a lot of experience being an expat having lived in Switzerland, UK and now Italy. What’s the story behind your moves?

Barbora:  I was born and raised in Slovakia. After high school, I applied for a scenography (the design and painting of theatrical scenery) course at The Academy of Performing Arts in Prague. I was not admitted, and honestly, I did not know what to do. I had spent years sewing in my spare time, had even a few exhibitions, and supplied local fencing clubs with costumes. I was very disappointed and did not know what to study, so I thought I could go abroad for a year, and then I would have to make up my mind.

Stories of Moving to Italy Barbora on Pros and Cons
Barbora on Pros and Cons

I applied for about 1,200 vacancies in hospitality between Italy and Ticino, and eventually got hired in Switzerland for a seasonal waitressing job. Once my contract expired I thought I could improve my English so I looked for a job in England. I was enjoying my England and wanted to enroll at university there however, the school fees rose drastically that year and I could not afford it. As I could speak Italian (something Barbora learned to do as a teenager) I thought Italy would be a good solution for me. It was not an easy decision, but I went for it. To make a long story short, I moved to Milan, settled down, found a job, and enrolled at La Statale University.

Brandy: Now that you’ve been in Milan for nearly eight years, let’s talk about life in Italy as an expat. What’s the hardest part of living in Italy as an expat?

Pros and Cons of Moving to Italy

Barbora: Expats are seen as “stranieri” (foreigners) by quite a lot of people.  Sometimes, some locals (not all of them) tend to be rude and treat us differently, which does not allow us to feel truly at home. However, I do not want to discourage anybody and do not blame all Italians. It is really about individuals.

Brandy: What’s the hardest part of finding work as an expat?

Barbora: I would say, it might be challenging especially at the beginning when we are alone with no network. Having no job is difficult in various ways. Firstly emotionally, as we tend to feel like a loser, and there is nobody to speak with about it. Secondly, financially. A lot of us have to start from scratch, we have little or no savings, and have to face the high cost of living.

Stories of Moving to Italy expat interview
Stories of Moving to Italy expat interview

Brandy: You recently gave a speech about languages and mental health, can you tell us a bit more about it?

Barbora: Sure! I organized a Language and Mental Health conference, because I firmly believe that mental health is not a luxury, but a primary right of each of us. Unfortunately, there is still a huge stigma about it, and at the same time, we tend to neglect it. Moreover, expats are under further pressure, because they live their dream life, they have no right to complain, right? Well, not at all. Nobody sees the struggles connected to job hunting, looking for a decent place to stay, making true friendships, reinventing our routine, dealing with a language barrier, and cultural differences.

That’s how the idea was born and I’d like to say a big thank you to my 11 colleagues who embarked on this journey with me. We tried to offer our perspective and ready-to-put-into-practice advice on expat’s life, language learning, and of course on mental health.

I was amazed to receive all that wonderful feedback, and cannot wait to run the second edition next spring.

If you’re an expat who would like to learn more, contact Barbora here!

Brandy: Now for the fun part, what’s the most rewarding part of living in Italy?

Barbora: Actually, there are different rewarding parts. One is more personal, and it is about my personal journey from studying at university to figuring out my dream job, from facing the most difficult moments in my life so far to the best ones.

The second is about Italy on the whole.  One might take it for granted, but I am in love with its landscape, food, museums, and culture.

Stories of Moving to Italy Barbora on Pros and Cons
Barbora on Pros and Cons

Brandy: Thank you for being open about the struggles expats face and the impact they can have on mental health. In closing can you tell us a bit about your services with Turn Italian?

Barbora:  My mission is to help expats to navigate at the ex-pat’s sea. Expat’s life might get challenging, that is why we need somebody to speak about it, a person who can understand and advise us on our journey. When our loved ones are not able to support us, I’m here to help. I offer a safe environment where to speak about expat’s troubles and provide takeaway tips to stand up for ourselves confidently.

Brandy: Barbora thank you for your time! For anyone curious about the expat experience in Italy Barbora has an amazing series of expat interviews on her blog I highly recommend! She’s also on Instagram with videos from her interviews including one with Amanda who you might remember from my interview with her about dealing with feelings of loneliness and making friends in Italy.

Video: Expat Interviews on Mental Health & Feeling Lonely

Follow ALOR.blog for More Stories of Moving to Italy

Stories of Moving to Italy is a series inspired by the beautiful complexity of moving to Italy. Have you moved to Italy? let me know! I’d love to connect and hear more about your story. Share why you call your corner of Italy home in the comments below or send me a note at Brandy@ALORConsulting.com.

2 comments

  1. Thanks a lot for your comment! I am happy you liked the article. Brandy is amazing at sharing real expat’s life experiences.

    Like

What are your thoughts?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: